7 Tips on How to Be a Cool Mom ...


Every mother wants to know how to be a cool mom - one that her kids think of as a friend as well as a mother. The thing is, that most moms over-think the whole “cool mom” persona (think Regina George’s mom in Mean Girls!) and in turn, find themselves letting their kids do things they’re not comfortable with, simply because they feel that they should. If you’re wondering how to be a cool mom, read on!

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Listen to Your Kids

One of the most important aspects of how to be a cool mom is listening to your kids. When your child comes to you with a problem, they are telling you in confidence and deserve all of your attention. As their mother, it is important for your children to know that you will always be there to listen, whether it be a problem they’re having or even if they just want someone to talk to.


Take an Interest

Knowing what hobbies your child has and doing these things with them is a really great way to earn their respect, and get to know them better in the process. Your kids will appreciate you taking an interest in the things that interest them, and this will then give you more things to talk about. Even if you don’t participate with your child, asking them questions about it is just as great.


Lay down the Law

Children respect parents who have clear boundaries. It’s fine to want to be your child’s friend, but you are their mom first. If you’re not comfortable with your child doing something, you are allowed to say no. It shows you love and care about the safety of your child. Always agreeing to everything can sometimes lead your child to feel as though you don’t care.


Being a cool mom is not about being lax on rules or being your child’s best friend. It’s about setting clear boundaries and expectations, while still showing your child that you care and understand them. Lay down the law and make sure your child knows what is and isn’t acceptable. Explain why you say no to certain things, and make sure they understand your reasoning.

Enforce consequences when your child doesn’t follow the rules. It’s important for them to know that there are consequences for their actions. This will help them to develop a sense of responsibility and respect.

Be consistent with your rules. Children thrive in an environment with structure and consistency. If you’re constantly changing the rules or allowing them to do things one day and not the next, it will be difficult for them to understand what is expected of them.

Make sure your child knows that you are always there for them. Let them know that you will always be there to listen and support them, even if you don’t agree with their decisions.


Respect Their Privacy

Having secrets is a large part of growing up and learning trust. It’s okay for your children to have secrets from you - obviously, if you feel as though your child is in danger then it’s a different story, but for the most part, respecting your child’s right to privacy is very important. They’ll let you know when they feel comfortable.


Have “You” Days

I know so many mothers who have special days with their children. Pick a day each month, for example, and have days dedicated to you two. Go shopping, play sport, take a class - whatever you both enjoy. It’ll give you a chance to really bond and it will show your child that you are genuinely interested in spending time with them.


Meet Their Friends

Knowing who your child is friends with is not only great at creating peace of mind for you, but it also lets them feel comfortable with bringing their friends home to hang out. Meeting and getting along with their friends is a really big deal in your kid’s mind, and it’s important you respect that!


Accept Their “Phases”

Every kid goes through different phases, be it fashion, music or personality - it’s all an important part of growing up and figuring out who they are. While some of these phases may not fit in to what you believe in or understand, it is crucial that you accept them anyway. They will grow out of them, but it’s important that you are there for them if they need you.

Being a “cool mom” isn’t as complex as you might expect! It really all comes down to being an understanding, patient and loving mother. Earning respect and trust from your kids is easy, if you are simply there for them when they need you. What are your tips for being a “cool mom”?

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While your article points have merit, you're confusing "cool" with "good" and cool is subjective. How many & how old are your children? (2 girls, 8 & 7).

girl yasssss!! this is totally what my lovely kid and the other ones will like!!

cool seems closer to being their "friend". they have enough friends, what they need is a strong teacher and role model. being their friends sets no boundaries and you will be sorry. being a good mother

I agree with Msknowitall

msknowitall is NOT right, this is how to be a cool mom and if you don't agree there is something VERY wrong with you!!!

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yes, I was afraid as I read the title. and I turned out to get good points. I agree with the confusion between cool and good. it might have been on purpose to say: you are not supposed to be cool when you have responsibilities to be good! which is not always fun and easy as we (mothers) know it. :)

Hi Guys! Thanks for taking the time to read and comment on my article :) While I myself don't have children, I do have a mother. I consider my mum to be a very "cool mum", for each of the points I outlined in this article. As a child of a "cool mum", I feel I am the voice telling mothers what their children consider "cool" - to be "cool" doesn't mean to be irresponsible. To be a "cool mum" means that you have time for your kids and that you are the one they turn to when they need help. A cool mum and a good mum go hand in hand! So while lots of people will think that being a cool mum means letting your kids go out to parties, get body mods at a young age etc etc, I can safely say from a child's point of view that this is not all that is needed from a cool mum. Thanks :) -HollyXOXO

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