I hope this article can help you know some things to do when you want a baby and he doesn't. This is a very difficult spot to find yourself in. It can feel heart-wrenching when you're ready for the next step in your relationship and your guy isn't. Hopefully these things to do when you want a baby and he doesn't can help you to reach a place of agreement as a couple.

1. Don't Push the Topic

I know that it's hard. But one of the best things to do when you want a baby and he doesn't is to not push him. It doesn't mean the subject is closed. You're just giving it a break for awhile so that it isn't such an emotionally charged subject. Let's say you give it two to three months before you talk about it again. By then you'll both be calmer and more prepared to discuss it.

2. Let Him Know How You Feel

When you do talk about this subject again, let him know how you feel. It's okay to tell him directly that you really want a baby. It may be a first baby or just adding another child to your family. Either way, you want to communicate clearly. Men usually prefer direct communication versus subtle hints.

3. Tell Him the Reasons You Want a Baby

Sometimes it's good to explain why you want a baby. Maybe you have what I call "the mommy urge" and you feel this need to have a baby. You may feel it's the right time in your life for a child. Maybe you want to take your relationship to the next level because you are so deeply in love with your guy. Maybe you want to give a sibling to the child you already have. Tell him the specific reasons you want a baby.

4. Stop Talking at the Right Time

If your discussion is growing heated, stop talking. Don't let it venture into argument territory. It's better to stop while you're ahead. Talk to him about the subject but then give him time to think. Guys generally need longer to think things through than we do.

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5. Consider His Feelings

His feelings are important, too. Ask why he doesn't want to have a baby. Is it a personal preference or does he have specific concerns? Maybe he feels it will be too stressful on your relationship or that the number of children you already have is perfect. It could be that he feels that you can't afford to have a baby.

6. Address His Concerns

If you have something to say in response to his concerns it's good to do so. If he feels a baby would be too stressful on your relationship, maybe you could remind him how strong your relationship is. If his concerns are financial, maybe you could sit down and look at the numbers together. It might help him to see that you can afford a baby. Talking things out like this may help him change his mind.

7. Decide to Wait Till You're in Agreement

Most of all, wait until you're in agreement before you attempt to have a baby. Pushing him into having one when he's clearly set against it can mess up your relationship permanently. Having two loving parents is always best for a baby. Your guy may feel differently in 6 months. It's always best to wait until you're in agreement before you have a baby.

These are 7 things to do when you're ready to have a baby and he isn't. Are you in this place? Feel free to share your experience.

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Wendy
2015-08-04T02:45:39.573Z
Or maybe he doesn't want to settle down with you...
Maria
2021-08-29T16:40:04.961Z
#1 My boyfriend had a vasectomy in his first marriage and I am still thinking about having kids. We have been together almost 2 years he is 48 and I am 40.
Melissa
2022-08-14T20:45:28.081Z
My boyfriend at first wanted a baby with me but then he changed his mind because of what his ex done to him.. He understands i’ll never do what she did but, does anyone think that he may say yes someday in the future?
Mj1994
2015-01-14T02:26:24.327Z
do not choose a man who could leave whenever over a baby who will love you forever unconditionally. Common ground on this issue is essential to avoiding resentment in the long run. Breakup now and don't waste precious time!
Young
2022-04-28T19:31:09.111Z
I’ve been very open about waiting another baby before we got married. Five years later he finally give me an answer “ I’m too old for a baby”. Why the hell did he want to marry me then? I feel like he’s not meeting my needs at all.
Sharon
2015-01-13T20:24:56.751Z
Most people who say no to wanting children will say no after marriage. Keep your priorities in mind. If children isn't something you can "compromise" don't get married. Easier said than done though
Sapna
2015-01-13T17:07:21.051Z
Why not an article on the same but in reverse
missalliedee
2015-01-13T20:21:33.841Z
Orrr you can just "forget" to take your birth control...Jk, NEVER do that! Seriously, this should be discussed and decided before marriage or even engagement. You will almost never change his mind later, as hopeful as that sounds...m
Blomeh
2022-11-08T06:11:11.969Z
Well ive been with my guy almost 10 months and he encouraged me to get an abortion when i got pregnant the first time , i did and i really regretted it and so now he has a long lost baby that a woman had and she popped back up out of nowhere so i just wanna know am i wrong for pressing the line that i want my baby now since she gets to have hers and have an active father in her sons life (she told him it wasnt his and to not worry but here she is right) but i didnt get to even have my baby let alone him be in its life ?
shannon
2015-01-13T10:40:00.129Z
This discussion should come up long before him putting s ring on your finger, it's not like getting a puppy and taking it back to the pound if you don't want it, it's a child !!!!!