7 Facts about Only Children Parents Should Know ...

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7 Facts about Only Children Parents Should Know ...
7 Facts about Only Children Parents Should Know ...

How many facts about only children do you know? While we all know that older children tend to be bossy and younger children may be more intelligent, there’s been significantly less reporting about studies on only children. With over 40% of women stating that they may only have one child, it’s an area we should all know more about – here’s the leading facts about only children you should know.

1. You’ll Need More Playdates…

Families with more than one child can be pretty sure that their child has socializing down – after all, siblings have to learn to play, share and put up with each other from an early age. So it’s no real surprise that one of the key facts about only children is that they’ll need more playdates to develop those socialization habits. While your little one might get along great with adults, they need plenty of time around children too. Whether it’s team sports, playdates with other mums or play groups, you’ll want to get involved with a few regular activities.

2. You’ll Become a Kid’s TV Star…

You’ll Become a Kid’s TV Star… To a certain extent, children will entertain each other. From rolling balls at each other to teaching each other to draw or reading together, siblings have a whole other source of entertainment – but an only child just has you. Which will result in you becoming one of those super kid’s TV presenters who can make anything fun, and has a song for everything. Make it easy on yourself by mixing the day up into dolls, creative activities like Play-Doh, outdoor time and TV time.

3. You’ll Get More Done…

You’ll Get More Done… Planning things is much easier with just one child. Once they start school or are old enough for sleepovers, you’ll have a big period of time to yourself, and even before then you’ll find that other people will happily look after just one child. How hard can one little one be?! Not as tough as three, that’s for sure.

4. There is Some Guilt…

There is Some Guilt… No doubt plenty of people will find it necessary to comment on your family, and inform that you’ve still got time to have another child – and you’d be completely right to ignore them, and stick to the family size that suits you. But when your little one meets a baby, expect questions and sad eyes. My little sister once told me that her birthday wish was for a little brother! Some guilt in these circumstances is natural, and completely expected.

5. Only Children Blossom…

That’s not to say that big families don’t, but the maths is simple. When there are more children in a family, the parents are spread thinner. With just one child, your little one will get the whole attention of their parents, and likely their grandparents too. And this does reflect in everything from homework ability to independence.

6. There’s Nothing to Dread…

So we’ve all heard how bad the terrible twos are, and nobody is looking forward to worrying about what time their 17 year old will get home, or that first time that your teenager skips curfew. But nothing seems quite so bad when you know you are only going through it once, and won’t be repeating it. There’s some wonderful moments, too – once you’ve lost your baby weight it’ll be gone for good, and once you’ve stopped buying nappies you’ll never need them again…

7. It’s Cheaper…if You do It Right

One recent study put the price of raising a child to 18 at a whopping $400,000, so it’s no wonder some families only want to pay out once. Having just one child can be a massive saving, even when considering that you can use some objects again and again. But be careful that you don’t splurge out of guilt – it won’t take many iPhones, cars or extravagant activities to completely negate the savings. This is one of the most unbelievable facts about only children: who knew they were so expensive?!

Of course, there are plenty of other interesting facts, too. Parents are much less likely to be consistent with only children, and typically give in to requests for toys or treats much easier. But in general, there is no difference between only children and those with 9 brothers – your parenting style should be the same, and any facts about only children are purely for interest! Do you have an only child? I’d love to know what you think!

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One child is definitely not for me lol. I adore children, and call me crazy but I want at least 4 kids :b

Comments about an only child tend to be selfish, self centred, needy - is a whole load of rubbish! As Sandra said, it depends how you bring your child up. If a child is spoilt and made to feel more important than other kids then of course they will turn out to be that way, regardless, whether an only child or not. I know someone who has all these bad qualities and has 2 other siblings. I have ceased seeing or speaking to her for that and many other reasons. An only child needs to be taught to share, to care about others, to be independent. Most of the time they are independent as they don't ask anyone for help, they're used to doing things on their own and that's from experience. Just because they may have their own room, where they listen to whatever music they want, watch what they want on tv, etc, doesn't make them selfish! That's generalising! Takes one selfish, needy self centred person to know one I guess......

Some people make being an only child sound like a condition and stereotype!

Coming from a family that had 8 kids, and now raising my only child, there are world of differences between parenting styles.

Having siblings develops important additional skills for kids. Xxx

I haven't done any official research but from what I've seen heard and experience only children are extremely likely to be selfish, extremely self centered and act like they are entitled to everything.

I am so happy I had two, a girl and a boy very close together...they are 25 and 26 now and still are each other's best friend ..they never had that sibling rivalry stuff you hear about..Anything good, bad, happy or sad that happens to them, they share with each other first...I always told them that other friends will come and go in their lives, but they will always have each other...and no one else can share the "remember when.." about their childhoods as they get older..

I am an only child. I never really had play dates but my mum spent a lot of time with me growing up and often didn't work. She was my playmate most of the time. Although I was a bit shy when I was a kid I have a very close relationship with my mum. I wished I had siblings when I was younger but now I know I wouldn't change anything. I will definitely want siblings for my daughter though. Not because I don't want her to be lonely like me, but because I want more kids for myself.

It is soooo annoying hearing negative comments about being an only child. I'm an only child and was never referred to as selfish, needy or a brat. It depends on how your parents raise you. I know people who have siblings and are all of the things that people claim only children to be. I was blessed to have tons of family and friends around so being lonely was never a concern.

I feel like an only child at times, even though I have an older brother and sister. We had lots of fun together as kids, and I remember being close with my sister :) after she went overseas for yearly trips though I feel like I've missed out on lots of communication and what happens in her world.. Makes me a bit sad! My brother lives interstate "in the wild" as my folks like to say, but it's very hard to get to him by means of phone and email.. Hmm I wish my family had more of a close relationship together. We're all so different and spread out, with so many different experiences. Makes me think a bit!

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