Are you searching for some alternatives to spanking that work? Discipline can be a tricky issue for parents and sometimes it takes a combination of different methods. It is always good to have more than one option in mind when you are dealing with a situation with your child. These are some ideas you can use as alternatives to spanking
1. Revoking Privileges
For many kids this is the one of the best alternatives to spanking. Taking something away that they enjoy can be the way to get their attention quickly. Most kids do not like going without their electronic devices, television or cell phones. It can actually be quite amazing how quickly their attitudes can change. Once your children realize this can and will happen to them, it also helps prevent a lot of bad behavior.
2. Making the Punishment Fit the Crime
This is probably one of the best ideas in parenting. Let the punishment fit the crime. An example of this would be if your three year old colors on the wall then they have to wash the wall. Even if you know they cannot wash it off completely, making them make an effort to fix what they have done wrong is a good idea. It teaches them a valuable life lesson, too.
There is a reason that the idea of time-out is still around. It often works. But it is important to realize that time-out has to have some stipulations to truly accomplish its purpose. Time-out needs to occur in a place that is not fun such as a room with no television. It also needs to be the same place every time. This saves you the trouble of having to figure out a good location each time.
4. Having a Heart-to-Heart
I will be honest here. I have really found that many times, a heart-to-heart with my own children is insightful and saves us the need for discipline. Trying to find out what is going on with your children and understanding their actions is very helpful. Once you understand them better, you are in a better position to offer guidance. This helps bring you closer to your children.
5. Extra Chores
Sometimes misbehavior occurs because of boredom. When kids get bored, they tend to pick fights with their siblings or other children. They may also find other mischief to get into. Finding them something to do is key here. When misbehavior starts, find them a chore to do to keep them occupied.
6. Rewarding Good Behavior
Many times kids act up to get attention. They want to be noticed. If they aren’t getting noticed for positive behavior, they will resort to negative behavior. So, do your best to catch your child behaving well or making a kind or caring gesture and make a big deal out of it. Pour on the praise and encouragement and they may continue with it.
7. Making Them Miss out
Sometimes, bad behavior has to cost a child something before they realize the consequences. Making them miss out on a playdate or a trip with friends is a good way to do that. It can be difficult to make your child miss out on things because you want to see them happy. But you have to remind yourself that you are working toward a bigger purpose here; that of having a well-rounded child and later, a well-rounded adult. It is the kindest thing to do in the long run.
What alternatives to spanking work for you? Share your ideas here. Moms offering other moms help is a beautiful thing.