7 Things to do when Giving Your Kid the Sex Talk ...

Giving your kid the sex talk is probably one of the most important conversations you will ever have with your children. Sex and puberty are a part of growing up, and as we all know, growing up is a scary thing. However, kids are beginning to have sex earlier and earlier because of peer pressure and the media that influences them. So let’s relax a little bit and figure out what to do when giving your kid the sex talk.

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Start Early

One of the first things to do when giving your kid the sex talk is to start talking about it early. Because teenagers start having sex earlier and earlier these days, it would be beneficial to have the sex talk with them earlier rather than later. Many teenagers say that their parents never even had a sex talk with them. I know that kids are even having sex in Middle School now, which means that they are around eleven or twelve years old.

Be Straightforward

Try not to sugar coat anything. I’m not saying that you have to give your four year old a detailed description of the birds and the bees, but you shouldn’t just say that they just showed up on your doorstep in a basket and you were destined to take care of them.

Answer Every Question

Try to be open with your kids about everything. Answer every awkward question that they have, because the more laid back you seem about the subject, the more comfortable they will be coming to you for advice and help when it comes to sex.

Involve Both Parents

I think that it is a good idea to involve both parents because you can get a perspective from both a male and a female. I wish that I had my dad there to tell me that there will be a bunch of hairy guys with raging hormones that will constantly try to sleep with me.

Ask What They Know

Before you have the sex talk with your kids, ask them what they have already learned from school and from friends. Most kids are grossed out in health class, and they are more entertained by their friend’s sexual stories that are made up most of the time. This way you can clear up what they don’t know and you can correct what they think they know.

Famous Quotes

Men in general judge more from appearances than from reality. All men have eyes, but few have the gift of penetration.

Niccolò Machiavelli

Don’t Scare Them

I know that when I first learned about the reproductive organs of men and women, I got a little freaked out and intimidated at how complicated everything was. Don’t show them every terrifying looking STD out there right off the bat. Ease that stuff in later.

Tell Them What You Wish Your Parents Told You

Everyone truly learns about sex from personal experience. I bet that there were a few things that happened to you that you wish someone told you about. Tell your kids what you wish you knew, so they can be more prepared when the time is right.

The sex talk is probably the most awkward conversation that you can have with someone. Many schools are dropping health classes and kids are not being educated about sexual health. They need to know that while sex might be fun, there are also a lot of responsibilities and risks that come with it. What are some things you think you should do during the sex talk?

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Where Thoughts and Opinions Converge

Read your stats, teens are having less sex these days

I got no "sex talk" and ended up very vulnerable as a result. With my son, I used the book "Where Did I Come From" and the talk was before he was 10. He was coming home from school using words he didn't understand from older kids. As adults it feels awkward talking about it as we have physical, emotional memory of what sex is. Kids don't have this, and they think it's absolutely the maddest thing they've ever heard!! My son is now 17 and we thankfully have a relationship where we can talk openly about everything, but I'd to overcome my own awkwardness to achieve this. I'm glad I did, as it's better to be able to talk openly about sex, drugs, relationships using proper information. It allows my son to make informed, sensible and mature decisions in his life. His choices are informed ones, which is a huge blessing from a mum's point of view...

just because they're having less sex doesn't mean they aren't getting younger

My mother told me about sex when I was 8 yrs old. I asked her a question about oral sex and she answered it w/o a problem. It was weird but I was glad she answered my questions. She was open, candid, and most importantly, honest. Who wouldn't want that from a mother?

I also think you need to make the kid/teen comfterble and let him/her know that he can ask questions without beeing scared.

I truly believe sex/health education should stay in schools!!

wait, DO NOT involve both parents! it could be really awkward!!!

Oh god I am actually so happy my parents never gave me the talk. The sex ed in school also taught me nothing that I know about real world sex. Just like mentioned in the article...I learned everything I know now from personal experience which I believe is the best way to learn these kinds of things. Obviously it is important to know about the risks but after that is understood, the rest should be personal experience (in my opinion)

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