There's no denying that there are certain "talks" and topics to discuss with your daughter when you think she's read. I remember all the little chats my mom and I used to have, and I can say they paid off! So the question is, which topics should you discuss with her? You know, what should she be hearing firsthand from you, in the form that you want her to learn it and along with your expert advice? Well, a few things naturally jump to my mind of topics to discuss with her, and so I wanted to write an article on the subject. Here is my list of 9 topics to discuss with your daughter. And these topics are not limited to any specific age. It's according to your own discretion at what age is appropriate to introduce these topics!
This is probably the most obvious topic that comes to mind when you think of heart-to-heart mother/daughter chats. Your daughter needs to know what's going on with her body, what to expect and how to cope with it, and she shouldn't be learning about it from Seventeen magazine or the girls in home room. Sit down and have a real chat with her. Don't feel embarrassed or awkward! It's YOUR daughter! My mom had this talk with me at the tender age of 9, and from that moment on I was so excited to finally "get" my period. Oh, what I wouldn't give to go back and enjoy those few years of freedom!
I guess another name for this point could be "sex" or rather, "abstinence." I think it's very important that we teach our daughters the pride of purity before they give it away. I was raised to believe that a girl should remain a virgin until she was married. Now I'm not pointing fingers at anyone who doesn't believe this way or practice this teaching. I'm just saying I was raised that way. I would encourage you to teach your daughter that she should save herself for the right man and not be so eager to give her virginity away! After all, how many of you can stand and say that you wish you could go back and erase a few jerks off your "list"?
A topic to discuss with your daughter that gets overlooked so many times is beauty. I believe a reason that this topic is overlooked is because there are so many fashion and beauty magazines, TV shows and YouTube videos dedicated to teaching our daughters what "beauty" is. But there are still many things a girl can learn from her mother regarding beauty. And more importantly, inner beauty. Even if your daughter knows every shade of lipstick in the world, I encourage you to have a talk with her about true beauty.
Just like beauty, fashion is another topic to discuss with your daughter. It's a topic that most girls shrug off, because, "Who wants fashion advice from their MOM?" Well, I am here to tell you right now that if you don't teach your daughter to cover up and be modest, no one else in this world ever will. In fact, the media and social world will teach her to take it all off and let everything hang out. You are the sole person who can teach her how to be fashionable, yet modest. So use your mom power on this one!
5. Alcohol Abuse
Girls these days are feeling more and more pressure than ever before to light up or chug down. And it's not just because of peer pressure! Many girls are using alcohol as an escape from real world challenges they face, between boyfriends, school, friends, possible rifts with parents or siblings and many other reasons. Don't let your daughter be the victim of substance abuse! Teach her to find other means to release stress and to avoid alcohol and tobacco products. That's the very best way to never need to kick the habit. Just don't ever start!
This is probably a topic to discuss with your daughter a little bit later in life, but it's still an important topic to bring up! You should tell your daughter what a true marriage is about, and encourage her to find someone she knows is right for her! Give her the wisdom she needs to understand when she is truly ready for marriage and when it's too early, but above all, train her to have the desire to be married! I am newly married myself, and I still remember all the advice my mother gave me on being married and having a home of my own. No one can replace a mom's advice!
One of the touchier yet still important topics to discuss with your daughter is the friends she has. I remember coming home crying many times because of things other girls would say or do and finding comfort in my mothers arm's. Make sure to be there for your daughter on those days, but also teach her to make wise choices concerning friends. There will always be the "mean girl" of the bunch, but that doesn't mean your daughter needs to be friends with her. Show her that choosing genuine friends will pay off in the long run!
8. Keeping House
While many mothers and wives (and single young women as well) these days are choosing careers over being a stay-at-home mom/wife, there is still a basic need to learn keeping house skills. Regardless of whether there is no one else to clean up after except herself, there will always be someone making a mess! I know some friends of mine who were married, and had never even cleaned house before! Don't take care of everything yourself as the mother! Teach your daughter to sweep, mop, dust, vacuum, wash dishes and clean bathrooms so that she can take care of her own house someday!
9. Religious Beliefs
I do want to be careful what I say here to avoid offending anyone. I realize that there is a wide variety of religious beliefs and practices in the world. Whatever yours are, I highly encourage you to discuss the topic of God with your daughter. Everyone wants to believe in something. It will have huge benefits and advantages on your daughter's life if she knows exactly what she believes and why she believes it!
This article on topics to discuss with your daughter only barely scratches the surface of the many important things that there are to talk about with her. But these are some of the ones that stand out in my mind, some of the ones that I remember my mother discussing with me! I truly hope you will discuss these and many other subjects with your daughter while she is young before it is too late. What important things do you want to discuss with your children? Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!
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