There are many pros and cons of being a young mother. The definition of what constitutes a “young mother” has changed somewhat as the average age of mothers has hit 30, and being a young mother in your early twenties can naturally be quite different to being a young mother at sixteen. Many of the blessings and problems are the same though, so here are 9 pros and cons of being a young mother.
1. You’ve Got More Energy
You can’t discuss the pros and cons of being a young mother without considering the fact that younger people naturally have higher energy levels. Mothers in their teens and early twenties will probably find it easier to physically cope with sleepless nights and running around after a lively toddler.
2. Your Body Will Repair Itself More Easily
As we get older, our skin becomes less supple and everything takes longer to heal. Young skin is able to cope with the stretching better and may be less prone to stretch marks, while any scars will heal better.
3. Losing Your Figure Earlier
Although your body will probably be less damaged due to your young skin’s ability to cope better with the stretching, your body will probably never be the same again. This is easier to accept in your thirties when many others your age are yo-yo dieting and dealing with pregnancy stretch marks themselves, but tougher when your friends are all still looking gorgeous in skin-tight mini dresses and tiny bikinis.
4. All Your Friends Are Partying
Staying in changing nappies and cleaning up sick can be hard when all your friends are out having a good time. If you’re thinking about trying for a baby and considering the advantages and disadvantages of becoming a young mother, this is definitely one thing to consider.
5. You’ll Still Be Young when Your Kids Have Grown up
While you might miss out on going out while you’re young, younger mothers will naturally be younger when their children grow up and are ready to move out. While your friends are starting to deal with difficult teenagers, you’ll be regaining your independence.
6. People Judge You
People are more likely to judge teenage mothers but I’ve faced negative comments about being pregnant at 22, because having a university degree and great career experience so far, I am expected to do “more.” It’s best to just ignore people’s negative comments but some people may find criticism and disapproving looks difficult to deal with.
7. You’ll Identify Better with Your Teenagers
The smaller the age gap between you and your children, the more likely you are to identify with them easily. This could be particularly useful when you’re dealing with a difficult teenager.
8. The Lack of Money
There’s no escaping the fact that you will probably have less money in your youth than if you wait for a few years to have a baby. This should have little impact on your child, provided all their essential needs are seen to, but may make life more difficult for you as a parent.
9. Education and Career May Be Put on Hold
If you’re considering the pros and cons of being a young mother, you need to think about the impact it could have on your education and career. Many young women drop out of school and university when they find out they are pregnant, and it can be harder to study after having children due to childcare costs. Other people of the same age will also have more work experience.
Did you become a mother at a relatively young age? What pros and cons of being a young mother did you encounter? Do you wish you waited or are you happy with how things have turned out?