7 Things Your Children Learn from Your Marriage ...

There are many things your children learn from your marriage. Many of them are things that you have most likely never thought about. Children are always watching, listening and learning from our example. Because of this, it is good to evaluate what you need to tweak in the example you are setting. These are 7 of the top things your children learn from your marriage.

1. What Relationships Look like

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One of the things your children learn from your marriage is what a relationship looks like. They will take the general picture of your overall marriage. That mental snapshot will color their views on relationships throughout their lives. This is inspiration for parents to make sure they are giving their marriage their best effort. It isn’t only their marriage that matters, but their child’s future relationships as well.

2. Division of Chores

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Like it or not, the way that you divide chores between yourself and your husband is something your children are watching and learning from. If Dad is wonderful to pitch in and help, your children will believe that is a normal happening. If Mom carries the full load, they will expect that when they have their own marriage. This can be motivation to make sure that you work out a fair division of chores. A fair division of chores carries the message of teamwork.

3. Conflict Resolution Skills

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Conflict is something that every married couple will have. It is an unavoidable part of marriage. It isn’t having conflict that is the issue; conflict is to be expected when two different individuals bring their unique perspectives to the table. What really matters is how you deal with conflict. Having healthy conflict resolution skills will teach your child how to resolve conflict in the right way with others.

4. United or Divided

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Children are wonderful at determining if Mom and Dad are a united front or not. It is best for your marriage and your family if you are united. If children sniff out any hint of division, you can bet they will pounce on that. Children actually feel more secure when they know that their parents are united. A good rule to follow here is to always talk to the other parent before making decisions concerning your child.

5. A Sense of Humor

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Children will learn about having a sense of humor from watching you in your marriage and in your general approach to life. Rarely does anyone have a life that goes exactly according to plan. Most of us experience some unexpected events from time to time. Handling those detours with a sense of humor is good for you and your frame of mind. It is also a good example for your child.

6. The Importance of Affection

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Children will observe if you are affectionate with one another in your marriage or if you aren’t. If a child grows up with parents who have loving affection toward one another, that will be normal to them. If their parents never express affection, that will be normal to them, too. Those factors play a big part in their future relationships. Another point in favor of being affectionate is that it gives children the security that their parents love each other.

7. How to Treat One Another

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Your children will learn a lot about how to treat people they are in a relationship with from watching your marriage. A young boy may learn to be a protective husband from watching his dad. A young girl may observe her mother being a supportive wife and follow in her footsteps. This is a good reminder to treat one another with love and respect. It isn’t just you that you are affecting; your children will be affected as well.

What are your thoughts? Were there things you learned in your parents’ marriage that colored your views on marriage? Share your comments here.

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