Do you ever think that you should stop blaming your parents for anything that's gone wrong in your life? Or for how they treat you now? While we shouldn't tolerate being treated badly by our parents, fully grown adults shouldn't stomp around moaning about their childhood. Yet many people do hold their parents responsible for things that have gone wrong in their life. Here are some reasons to stop blaming your parents …

1. You're an Adult

The first reason to stop blaming your parents is that you're an adult now. Maybe you even have your own children. And do you want them to be whinging in 30 years time about how everything is your fault? I knew one thirtysomething who held his parents responsible for all his problems. It wasn't true, and was not an appealing attitude in a supposedly mature man.

2. They Did Their Best

As is often said, kids don't come with an instruction manual. There's no foolproof guide to being a (good) parent, and parents are only human. They don't get it right all the time. Cut them a little slack. Bringing up children is a difficult job, and they did their best.

3. They're Not at Fault

It might not actually be fair to blame your parents for anything. Be honest with yourself - are you just stuck in old patterns of thinking it's their fault? It might not actually be anyone's fault at all. When we're young, we see our parents as all-powerful, but as adults we need to realise that they're not. And if they're not all-powerful, then they're not responsible for everything either.

4. Relinquishing Responsibility

Every teen blames their parents - it's part of the 'it's so unfair!' stage of adolescence, Blaming your parents when you're now an adult is essentially giving up responsibility for yourself and your life. Even if your parents aren't the best, you have to take charge of your own life and happiness. Don't make them responsible for making your life turn out well.

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5. Forgiveness

Yes, your parents may well have got things wrong at times, but they're human, and people make mistakes. Forgiving them for their mistakes, even if only in your own head, frees you from being stuck in the past and seeing yourself as a victim. It's so much better for you to move on - you'll be a happier person for it. You can't change people, so change how you view the situation instead.

6. Parents Aren't Perfect

Nobody's perfect, and parents are no exception. So give yours a break and accept that they're only human. It's impossible to be the perfect parent. Even if you think you're doing everything right, you're not going to keep your kids 100% happy. Make allowances for your parents.

7. Living in the past

Maybe your parents did make mistakes. But if you carry on blaming them, you're allowing yourself to be stuck in the past. That's not a healthy place to be, and it will only make you unhappy. Live in the present instead, and be a happier person.

Holding your parents responsible for your problems means you're stuck in the past or in a victim mentality, or that you're not behaving like an adult who is responsible for themselves, their mistakes and their happiness. Do you know someone who still blames their parents?

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Mariana
2014-05-28T04:55:45.091Z
my brother..
Troy
2022-10-25T00:45:04.629Z
Your right you don’t have to play victim and as an adult child you don’t have be around them either…SET BOUNDARIES tell them not to speak to you In a certain way then leave them alone let them know you will not tolerate any of that nonsense they did when u were a kid either
S.
2023-10-02T11:29:48.985Z
Katie, no one was talking about abuse. I have a brother that blames mom and Dad even today. He is almost 70 years old. He cant take responsibility for the problems he himself causes. He was not abused, just lazy and mentally stuck. My son is the same way, he is in his 30,s. I blamed my parents too, but realized it did not help me one bit. I was not abused. My parents did not always have the best discipline, but its time to be an adult and realize they also were not handed a perfect baby in the hospital. No human is perfect. Children are born with a personality too and some are way more challenging than others, and harder to raise. I have 2 and they both needed totally different discipline. I was very difficult at times too, Parents get tired and cranky too, Abuse is wrong, but some people call raising your voice abuse. My son feels that having him circumcised was abuse. So yes, abuse is a different subject and I am very sorry for what you suffered, but this is not why some people blame their mom and dad. Some are just immature and I will say cruel to blame others.
Brandi
2014-05-28T03:24:35.417Z
love number 5 and 7
Lavern
2022-05-15T11:31:33.481Z
Yes my daughter blames me for everything when if she had followed my lead she wouldn't have any regrets . As hard as I fought against her decisions she blames me for making the decision s that alternately made that destroyed 15 years of her life.
Mrs
2014-08-18T05:02:11.605Z
My sister...she's still a 'VICTIM' at 37 yrs old. She's raising two girls...they are giving her everything that she gives/gave my mother. I feel sorry for her.
Zanna
2014-05-28T01:57:26.122Z
so very true about living in the present and taking responsibility for our own happiness.
Fariha
2024-11-21T23:41:28.156Z
I'm glad I am reading this before it's too late.
Sid
2014-05-29T05:26:44.375Z
u r rite