8 Wrong Reasons to Have Children ...


There are many wrong reasons to have children. If you're going to start a family, it should be because you and your partner want to. Some people let themselves be influenced by outside factors. As a result, they may even feel a certain amount of regret and resentment, however much they love their kids. Here are some of the wrong reasons to have children …

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Eager Grandparents

One of the wrong reasons to have children can be to keep your own parents happy. Would-be grandparents can drive you mad, with their endless questions about when you're going to start a family, and complaining that their friends have lots of grandkids. Don't let them influence you!


Partner Pressure

Your partner may be more keen than you to have children, and try to encourage you to see their point of view. Or you may be the one who is more enthusiastic. If one of you is ambivalent about children, or disinterested altogether, don't try to persuade them. And never be tempted to have an "accident"! A child should be wanted by both parents.


Time Running out

We've all heard about the biological clock, but sometimes women feel that they should start a family because time is running out. This isn't necessarily a good reason to conceive; if you're not 100% committed to having a child, then it could be a bad idea for everyone.


Having children is a big decision and it's important to make sure you're ready to take on the responsibility. While feeling like time is running out may be a valid reason to have children, it's important to consider other factors. Having a child is a lifelong commitment and requires time, energy, and financial resources. It's important to think about whether you are ready to take on the emotional and physical demands of parenting. Additionally, consider whether you can provide a safe and secure environment for your child. It's also important to talk to your partner and make sure both of you are on the same page about having children.


Avoid Loneliness

Children can also be created in an attempt to avoid loneliness. Remember, though, that they will grow up and won't be with you forever. They may even move a long distance away. Your children will have to live their own lives as adults, and should not be used to try to fill an emptiness in your life.



In some cultures it's the norm to look after your parents when they get old. In our culture I think it's unfair to have kids assuming that they'll be your carers one day. They need to live their own lives. So don't let this be a factor in your decision to start a family.


Saving a Relationship "Band-Aid Babies"

Considering that parenthood is enormously demanding and stressful on a relationship, how can anyone think that having a baby will save a failing relationship? It never works. Don't deliberately bring a baby into your relationship if things are not going well - it'll simply hasten the end.


Someone to Love You

Some women, especially when younger, want a baby to fill an emotional void. They think that their child will be someone who will love them unconditionally. This may be true when the child is young, but there's no guarantee that there will always be a close relationship between you. Don't have a child to cure your loneliness.


To Get Him to Commit

Are you tired of waiting for your partner to commit to you? Here's another wrong reason to get pregnant. If your partner isn't showing any signs of wanting to commit, then parenthood won't magically have that effect. It's far more likely to make him run a mile, so either work it out with him or end it so that you can find someone who does want children.

Deciding on the issue of whether to have kids or not is often a difficult one, and will affect your life completely. Fortunately there is less pressure on women by society these days; being childfree is not considered as strange as it once was. Have kids because you want them and will love them, not because someone else thinks it is a good idea. Have you been pressured by anyone to start a family?

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Where Thoughts and Opinions Converge

I don't like the idea of "wrong" in regards to having a child, but I agree with what you're saying. Because being in the right situation like in a committed relationship and having financial means isn't a guarentee that things will be "right" and having a child in the situations you mentioned doesn't mean it will turn out "wrong".

Never ever consider having a child with your man if he has cheated on you in the past or you have evidence that he might still be cheating.

Another reason: because you hate your job! So not ok

Carers makes perfect sense! 'Are you a carer for someone?' Its a common used word in the UK where 'caretaker' to me sounds like someone who works in a park!

This article is great

"Carers?" I take it you meant caretakers

Another wrong reason is when the partner has issues from their childhood which they haven't yet tackled. The partner may be abusive as a result and should be cured before bringing children to the world.

Having children is a big responsibility, I agree that people may try to conceive for the wrong reasons but I also think that you can't wait for everything in your life to be perfect, otherwise you might miss out and just because things are perfect now doesn't mean they always will be!

This article is great but I'm not sure that I agree with #3. It is easy to say its not a good idea to have a child just because time is running out but the truth is that there IS a time limit and missing out on having a child may be devastating and regrettable.

I actually plan to have children and marry my man. We love children and we know they have a place in our future for sure. I do like this article though because these are all valid points to why people choose to have children and they aren't good reasons at all. I've seen a lot of woman get pregnant to "keep" their relationship. It almost always turns out the opposite.

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