7 Worst Things to Say to a Stay at Home Mom ...

By Fawn • Jul 21, 2014 • MD

I have been a stay at home mom on and off for about two years, so believe me when I say I have heard some of the very worst things to say to a stay at home mom. I never really let it bother me, since my job is so rewarding and I get to spend each and every day with my beautiful baby boy, but still, other people can be very catty and sometimes even downright mean. So, here is my list of the things you should avoid saying because they are the worst things to say to a stay at home mom.

1. What do You do All Day?

Honestly, this is my least favorite question and it's also the one that I hear most often. What do I do all day? You mean other than keep another human being alive, even though he is clearly set on finding ways to end his tiny baby life? Oh nothing. I actually sit on the couch and watch television and eat bonbons. All my stay at home mom friends hate this question just as much as I do. This is always number one on the list of the worst things to say to a stay at home mom.

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2. It Must Be so Nice to Sit at Home All Day

You know, you're right. There is nothing more rewarding to me than knowing that I get to be the person that raises my baby boy. But on the other hand, I don't just sit around all day. I spend most of my time during the day trying to clean up after my tornado of a son, mopping up spills, or trying to get the mystery stench out of my garbage can. So yes, it is nice to spend so much time with my little love bug, but it also sometimes makes me want to pull out my own hair.

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3. Don't You Ever Miss Having a REAL Job?

I do have a real job. I really have to keep my son alive, I really have to cook and clean and run errands, I really have to write blogs so that other women know that they aren't alone in being driven crazy by random, condescending questions. So, even though I get to stay in sweats some days (mostly because I don't have time to shower), I think my job is plenty real.

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4. You Look so Tired

Who me? The woman that hasn't gotten a proper night of sleep in two years? I look tired? How can that possibly be when my son's nap time was spent scrubbing a day's worth of mess off of the ceiling in my kitchen? I'm so well rested and glamorous, I just thought the grunge look was back. It's not? Well, I don't have time to go change my clothes.

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5. I Don't See Why You Can't Make (Insert Commitment); You're Home All Day

Listen, I'm sorry I can't drive my fourth cousin twice removed to the airport at 5:52 a.m. on a Tuesday. Although I am home all day, I also have a schedule and a toddler that will throw the perfect storm of fits if his eyes are forced open anytime before 7:35 a.m. And I have deadlines. So although you can almost always find me at home, that does not mean that I have endless time to play chauffeur or personal shopper.

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6. Do You Even Remember What It's like to Be Busy?

No. I have no recollection of being busy. Mostly because I'm too busy to think about how busy I used to think I was. You think working and going to school is hard now? Try holding a toddler while talking on the phone while packing to take said toddler to the doctor's office while feeding a dog and reminding yourself that you really should pick up more pages for your day planner.

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7. Every Day is Friday for You

The only way that every day is Friday for a stay at home mom is that the perpetual Friday never ends and you never get to go home and enjoy a weekend after 5 p.m. There is no clocking out of parenthood. Stay at home moms are literally on the job 24/7. We wake up at midnight and 2 for feedings, we kiss boo boos and scare monsters out of closets. So no, every day is not Friday or the weekend. Everyday is Monday, Groundhog Day, and Monday.

Well ladies, these are the things that I think are the worst things you can say to a stay at home mom, what are your least favorite comments and questions? Let me know down below!

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  • Kennedy

    2014-07-22T01:33:05.094Z

    This kinda seems like it was just written out of anger from a SAH mom who was fed up and needed to rantx
  • Aliza

    2014-07-21T12:37:24.448Z

    I agree these a things are so harsh it's not even funny. It would definitely hurt a mother that's home. And it's not like she doesn't do anything. She looks after the house, the kids, etc. Just because she doesn't have a job doesn't mean she's completely free or doesn't do anything
  • Isabella

    2014-07-21T14:41:02.185Z

    I'm studying Children's Services atm and have noticed that there are a few mums studying at the same time - being a mum is a full time job and all, but studying at the sam time?! I admire them for doing what they're doing, I can't imagine how draining it must be 😥
  • mar

    2014-07-21T11:50:19.867Z

    I hate when my husband thinks I do nothing at home.
  • nathalie

    2014-07-27T21:33:18.199Z

    I hope my blog didnt make these last comments thinks it was a rant or out of anger, I don't care who u r, or where u come from, though this womems talk was about venting and freedom if speech, take a walk in my shoes and then judge..
  • Delia

    2014-07-22T03:58:29.874Z

    Wow I got a headache just from reading this.
  • Sherry

    2014-07-21T09:56:16.872Z

    There are some stay at home who actually do hous chores and there are some female who don't do anything at all except watching tv, visiting single friends to show off how happy her life is and telephoning most of the time. When the husband came home, nothing is done. She even have a housemaid.
  • Splashhhh

    2014-07-21T11:22:29.442Z

    I think it depends what kinda mom r u the caring and cleaning one or the one who sits in front of tv whole day doing nothing
  • Angie

    2014-07-30T14:09:43.125Z

    This is so true... It's all me.. And I am very proud of myself.
  • Cathleen

    2014-07-21T16:34:22.331Z

    For me the classic was "it must be great to have all that free time"?!?! Single mum, 3 kids under the age of 4.. One of them turned out to have bipolar plus conduct disorder aka antisocial behaviour disorder plus autistic spectrum disorder but at that point all I knew was he had behavioural issues including chronic insomnia.. HAHA WHAT FREE TIME?? I think working would've been easier!!!
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