7 Ways to Teach Your Daughter to Be a Lady ...

By Jordin • May 13, 2013 • MD

Each mother should know a few ways to teach your daughter to be a lady, even if you are raising a tomboy! There is nothing wrong with a little girl who likes to rough it up outside just like the boys do, but at the end of the day, she is still a girl. Here are a few ways to teach your daughter to be a lady just in case you would like to maintain a sense of femininity for your daughter, and train her to have the best of both worlds!

1. Set an Example

Perhaps the most powerful of all ways to teach your daughter to be a lady is to lead by example. Children are like sponges; they soak up everything around them. If your daughter sees you behaving and dressing like a lady, chances are good that she will follow in your footsteps. Be sure that your words and actions always line up, because children will do and repeat everything they see or hear around them!

2. Words Matter

Part of being a lady includes watching the words that come out of your mouth. And that doesn’t mean just swear words! Unkind, hurtful and mean gossip is something you don’t want your daughter to take part in. Even just talking down to or about authority or those around you is something to be avoided. Habits form quickly at young ages, so try to keep words positive and uplifting!

3. Pay Attention to Her Clothes

These days I go clothes shopping, and I am appalled by what I see in the little girls' section. Clothes for little girls have lost their charm and modesty! I would never want to dress my own little girl in some of the things I see on the racks nowadays, because I don’t think it will encourage femininity. Pay attention to what your daughter wears when you go out of the house.

4. Encourage Femininity

I believe a woman can be strong, independent, and confident while maintaining her femininity. Lack of charm and grace in a woman just feels distant and strange! Encourage your daughter to be sweet and graceful in her manner, and if she likes pink and bows, go crazy with them! Even a tomboy can be feminine in her own way, it’s up to you to find that balance and help her walk that line.

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5. Work on the Attitude

An attitude is everything. Most small children show attitudes from a young age, so if you start to see one forming, don’t wait until it’s too late to nip it in the bud. A little girl can be as cute as a button, but if her attitude is bad, no one will notice the cuteness!

6. Avoid Tearing Her down

The quickest way to melt a little girl’s spirit is to tear her down. There is a difference between scolding and tearing down. Scolding is a necessary parental duty, but tearing down will not help your daughter build the confidence she needs to succeed in life. A lady needs to be taught character, so start with affirming words and positive attitudes!

7. Actions Are Always Important

Do you notice your little girl throwing temper tantrums? Twisting around words that you or someone else tells her? Does she mistreat her toys or lie to you? Remember that actions matter, and if you don’t make sure she understands that actions have consequences from a young age, she may face a hard road ahead of her. Teaching your daughter to be a lady means making sure she knows how to control her actions!

Teaching your daughter to be a little lady may take some time and dedication on your part, but in the end you will be glad you put forth the effort! Having a polite, well-mannered daughter will leave your friends wondering how you did it! And if she leaves a bow in her hair, that’s bonus points. How do you encourage femininity in your daughter?

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  • Sanzal

    2018-01-28T10:45:00.018Z

    This sounds more like advice for just raising a mannerly person with splashes of hoping your tomboy daughter likes some feminine things. Good for them if they like bows, but it's not really that important. If your child has interests that are coded to be masculine (ex. liking cars, wearing shorts, short hair) and is a kind and respectful, is there really an issue?
  • Barbara

    2013-05-13T23:25:50.000Z

    Wear skirts more ! If most women saw themselves in a 3 way mirror they'd never wear slacks . Some designer said that
  • Adriana

    2013-05-14T15:04:10.000Z

    I consider myself to be somewhat of a feminist and I almost didn't read the article because I thought it would be handled in a sexist way. I didn't find it offensive at all. It didn't say anything about being submissive or similar types of things. As far as I know there isn't a gender neutral word for "lady" or "gentleman", so that's our English language there, but they are both just a word that refers to a classy person with manners who makes others comfortable to be around them. I think anyone would be proud to know they raised their child to be that way.
  • Samantha

    2013-05-14T02:34:50.000Z

    Wonderful!
  • Erika

    2013-05-13T23:49:11.000Z

    This is nice! I feel like all of these could be applied to raising boys as well. The only one I didn't like was to encourage femininity. Kids should be able to act or wear what they want without having to make them fit into society's constructs. But I agree to disagree.
  • Circe

    2015-10-02T00:44:59.791Z

    Shouldn't this article be called: "7 ways to brainwash your child into what the bible and society thinks a girl should be?"
  • Shannon

    2013-05-15T11:17:16.000Z

    Christy feminism isn't about cloths or being sexual. When I was younger I bought underwear from Victoria's Secret. My mother said classy women don't buy cheap underwear cause it causes panty lines under your cloths and that's unbecoming of a lady. I never thought of it as oh I'm attracting a man. But that's just how my mom taught me. It's not so much as what you're wearing, but what is going on in your head. I had friends who never wore short skirts or clothing people consider "sexual" clothing. A lot of them only thought about attracting guys. I wore my shorts, skirts, and all of that. If a guy noticed me only for that then I'd move on cause I know he's probably assuming that I'm "easy" just cause that's how society labels women now. I'm surprised that so many people put this whole idea around feminism being only one way and painting feminists in such negative contexts. Feminism is about breaking gender constraints and sexism for BOTH sexes. Men can be feminist too.
  • Charlotte

    2013-09-29T00:49:52.000Z

    Wow. It's amazing
  • Peaches

    2014-02-02T10:00:12.139Z

    Love this!
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