I had amazing parents growing up, but what I’ve learned the most recent years of my life as an adult, is there are certain things your parents can’t teach you about life, no matter how awesome they are. I was praised as a child, and had such amazing, supportive parents as my backbone. Although my family went through some hard times, and split up during my teenage years, there wasn’t much I couldn’t go to them about when I needed advice. Yet, as I grew up to be an adult, I learned that some things your parents can’t teach you. Your parents are responsible for a lot in and about your life, but not everything, and some of the ideas below are examples many things you’ll have to learn or teach yourself along the way.
1. Your Dream Job
One of the most important things your parents can’t teach you is what your dream job is. Sure, they might try to influence you into a certain career field, or inspire you to do whatever it is you dream of, but they can’t decide what really makes you happy. You are the only one who can truly know what career is best for you, and the best way to find out is by exploring all areas of interest that you might have.
2. Who to Love
Another thing your parents can’t teach you about life is who you should fall in love with. Never let anyone’s opinion of a person stray you away from loving them, and don’t try to ask everyone else who they think is best for you. You’re truly the only one who can make such an important decision.
3. How to Handle Your First Life Crisis
Let me just tell you, at some point in life, you’re going to suffer a mini life crisis. Mine happened at age 19 and another happened at age 26. What I can tell you, is no matter how much my family supported me, they couldn’t fix the problems, and they couldn’t help me cope other than provide support and love. This time in your life will be the point you have to come to terms with the fact that growing up means having to deal with the ups and downs it brings, and even your amazing parents can’t show you how to do this.
4. Who You Are
A tough thing I learned several years ago, was that no matter how much I wanted to please my parents, and be who they wanted me to be, they still couldn’t teach me who I was as a person, or what direction I should take in my life. Who you are is unique to you, and your parents can’t decide that. You have to decide what makes you happy, and give yourself a sense of self worth, without trying to find it in another person.
5. How to Handle Hurt
Something else I learned that my parents couldn’t teach me was how to handle hurt. They could of course tell me how they thought I should handle pain and hurt, but ultimately, no one can tell you how to deal with it. You have to go through it and come out of it on your own and when you do, you’ll be 100% stronger for it in the long run.
6. How to Take Care of Yourself
My parents set me a good example that I should eat well, get enough rest, and not spend all my time indoors. They were fantastic influential parents, but ultimately, I had to decide how I was going to take care of myself as an adult. You have to choose how to make the right decisions for your health, just like you do with anything else. Take care of your body, so it can take care of you!
7. Your Five Year Plan
Everyone should have a “five year plan”, or so that’s what I was told a long time ago. This is essentially, what you want to do, and where you want to be in 5 years from now. Only you can decide what you really want to be in that Five Year Plan, and you’re really the only one that can make it happen. Be sure you think about what things truly inspire you, and what motivate you each day. Those things will be what make up your five year plan and goal setting should surround that to make it happen.
I’m sure we you all have other things we could add to this list with a little thought. What things have you learned about life that your parents didn’t teach you?