If you’re anything like me, you’re a parent that missed the memo on all the unexpected things about being a parent, the things you should know about being a mom, and the things no one tells you when you’re pregnant. I don’t know if it’s a gross oversight or just something that people gloss over when talking about how glamorous parenthood is but, either way, we’re pulling back the curtain, shattering the illusion. These are the 7 things you should know about being a mom.
Believe it or not for the first three months of your little one’s lives, they will sleep it all the time, 16-18 hours a day to be specific. But, it will be broken up. So, everything about your sleep schedule is about to change. Your child will be up every 2-4 hours to eat which means you will be up every 2-4 hours with your baby. Sleep when they do, leave the house work alone. You’ll need the energy as soon as your little angel passes the four month mark... making this the most important thing you should know about being a mom, especially a new mom.
2. Babies Love Non-Toys
Your first instinct is always going to be to buy the most state of the art, intelligence-developing toy. Guess what? Your baby would rather play with something that isn’t a toy. For instance, my son plays with measuring spoons and empty cereal boxes. He likes his toys, but he LOVES the measuring spoons.
3. Going out Will Never Be the Same
It doesn’t matter where you are going, it doesn’t matter what you are doing, going out will never be the same. Simple things like going to the grocery store now require a diaper bag, snacks, a bottle, and a cart cover/stroller. If you ever have the courage to go to a restaurant again you’ll need 37,985,785,873 things to keep your little one entertained.
4. You Will Become That Annoying Parent with the Camera
Everything that your baby does will be the most adorable, the funniest or the weirdest thing you have ever seen, so no matter what you will always have a camera. And you’ll share those pictures ALL OF THE TIME. Even if you thought it was annoying when your friends did it with their babies, you will quickly fall victim to what I like to call "camera hands."
5. Milestones Don’t Matter
For the first few months of your little love’s life, you are going to hear from everyone all about when little Johnny did this or that or a million other things. I am here to tell you that no matter what you hear, milestones don’t actually matter all that much. If your baby isn’t rolling over at 4 months, don’t sweat it. Your doctor will tell you when you need to worry. Until then, enjoy the time when your baby isn’t getting into everything.
Sometimes, you will need a break. And that is okay. But, you will feel guilty even if you’ve never taken so much as a bathroom break away from your baby. I can’t tell you how many times I have gone to the movies or taken a long shower and immediately felt guilty for not having my son with me. But you can’t always be super mom and your baby will need to get used to the idea that you may leave but you’ll always come back.
7. Every Baby is Different
Now, advice is okay and it’s great to read up on parenting. But, no matter how great the advice is, every baby is different. Parenting is trial and error (leaning heavily toward error). So, don’t worry, you’re not failing because your baby doesn’t sleep through the night even though you tried everything that your mother has told you (love you, mom).
It may seem a little bit like parenting is going to be more trouble than fun but, nothing is better than having a baby. The great moments outweigh the bad and the moment that your baby smiles at you for the first time everything else is going to fade away. So moms out in the blogosphere, what are some of the surprising things you would share about parenting?