7 Pieces of Parenting Advice Not to Give Other Parents ...

7 Pieces of Parenting Advice Not to Give Other Parents ...
By Alison • Nov 6, 2013 MD

Unwanted parenting advice is extremely common. Every parent has been told many times how they should raise their kids, and what they are doing "wrong." When you're tempted to tell parents what they should and shouldn't do, think twice before speaking. Parenting is stressful enough, and people really won't appreciate your advice, however well-meaning it may be. Here are some pieces of parenting advice that you shouldn't give to other parents …

1. Discipline

One piece of parenting advice you should never give is how other people should discipline their children. Telling them that they should smack their child/ send them to bed/ yell at them is guaranteed to meet with a frosty response. Parents need to decide among themselves how they should best discipline their child; you're not the child's parent, so you have no say in the matter.

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2. At Her Age, She Should Be …

Every parent will have encountered the self-appointed expert who loudly proclaims their opinions on when a child should reach certain milestones. They'll tell you that when their little angel was the same age he had already submitted his PhD. Don't tell anyone that a child should be doing certain things by a certain age. Children are all different, and will learn to walk or develop a vocabulary in their own good time.

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3. When to Stop Breast Feeding

Even expert opinions differ on how long you should breast-feed a child for. Even if you think that a woman is breast-feeding a child that is far too old, keep quiet. It's not for you to decide when she should stop. A mother and her child will stop when the time is right for them.

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4. Birth Plans

Have you ever met the type of woman who pontificates about how having a Caesarian isn't really giving birth? Never give other women advice on their birth plan if they haven't asked for it. Giving birth is such a personal experience that other people's opinions shouldn't come into it. The only other opinion that counts is that of her obstetrician and midwife.

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5. Size of Family

Most parents have heard this at some point. They've been told that having an only child is selfish, or that they can't afford a larger family. It seems that whatever people do is wrong! Nobody wants to hear opinions on how big their family should be, so keep your comments to yourself.

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6. Diet

Vegetarian parents get a lot of criticism from others. But it's entirely up to the parents if they want to bring their child up on a vegetarian diet. This is perfectly healthy providing the parents ensure that the child gets all the nutrition they need from vegetarian sources. Also, don't tell anyone how that they should force their child to eat new foods or that giving them treats is harmful.

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7. Pacifiers

Many parents who give their children pacifiers will have seen and heard disapproving tuts from strangers, and comments like "it'll deform their teeth." Sometimes a pacifier is the only thing that will calm a fractious child, and you shouldn't judge parents if they decide to use them.

If other parents want advice on child-rearing, they will ask for it. Don't think that you know best, as it will definitely not go down well. You should particularly avoid giving complete strangers unwanted advice on how to bring up their kids. What's the most annoying piece of parenting advice someone's ever given you?

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  • LizP

    2013-11-06T16:00:16.000Z

    The worst is getting unwanted parenting advice from somebody that never even had kids! I don't care if you have nieces and nephews, if you babysit, are a teacher or nanny... If you never had kids, you have no parenting advice to give!
  • Anna

    2013-11-07T16:06:34.000Z

    I know someone with an autistic child, who had a meltdown at the store because it was too loud and bright, and his mother gave him a hug and one of his toys to calm him down. Then someone who had never met them before came over and berated her because he assumed that the mother was "giving in to his temper tantrum" A lot of times situations are not what they seem to be, unless you know the person and understand the situation, do not say anything.
  • Sarah

    2013-11-07T22:00:06.000Z

    Just going to say I think that it is illegal to not feed babies protein. I don't really know the conditions it's under like age and how much. Just for vegetarians, please check with a doctor because it would be terrible if you got in trouble for it.
  • Jacki

    2013-11-06T05:36:14.000Z

    Ido t really agree with this article. Yes you should hold your tongue on some things but sometimes people need help understanding more about kids. I especially am from a big family and sometimes I run into people who are knew to things. Many people don't know why their kids are acting up or why they are having the illnesses they are having. Like for example, pacifiers can in fact hurt the speech of a child for a very long time. And for most kids it will in fact create cavities and make their teeth shift. There are things that happen for a reason. And instead of feeling defensive about it. Maybe they should take into consideration what people are trying to tell them. It just might make their world a little better. My mom used to let my sister suck her passy all the time just to appease her. One day I said enough was enough and threw it away. She looked for for awhile but then she forgot about her passy and went to acting like a normal child with no temper tamp trims about it. If you feed into a child's wants and needs to much. You don't become a parent you become a slave. Now how is that supposed to teach your kids how to respect their elders? People! My kids will never rule my world. They will just be raised in it.
  • splashhhh

    2013-11-06T05:14:56.000Z

    Omg love that atticle some ppl just dont know there boundries.
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