4. You Plan to Just Figure It out as You Go

I’m a planner. Some of you are more of the “fly by the seat of your adorable leggings” kind of girls. Adoption is one area where planning and setting realistic expectations will save you a lot of pain and disappointment later. If you are considering adoption, but have not attended a support group for adoptive families, read any books on adoptive parenting, found a professional adoption-savvy counselor, or gone through any training, please stop reading this article and go do that now. I know of countless parents with high-power jobs, an abundance of financial resources, and plenty of good intentions. Those characteristics don’t matter when it comes to the success of your adoption journey and parenting a child who has been adopted.

It’s a journey that doesn’t end when you bring your bundle of joy home. If you don’t have a support system or stable emotional health, you will struggle. Heck, you’ll struggle even with those things. Make sure you’re prepared for the rocky but oh-so-very-rewarding journey.

I love my children to Jupiter’s moons and back. However, if I had entered our adoption process with either self-serving intentions or incorrect expectations, I honestly don’t know where we would be right now. Adoption is a super meaningful way to start or build your family. I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Our family has only achieved the secure relationships and joy-filled environment we have because we went into the decision to adopt fully aware of our reasons, expectations, and possible challenges. Even then, we’re still learning day by day. If you’re ready, it’s worth it. So...have we scared you or inspired you?

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