3. Do Not Try to One up Each Other with Birth Stories

I’ve known a few women to ask for the birth story, and when you start getting into details, they will cut you off with something from their birth. “Oh, you used a birthing ball? I just walked up and down the halls, it was so easy!” Or the ever-present shaming for a choice of using drugs. “Oh, you got pain medication? I just pushed through it, it was so natural and beautiful.” There is no shame in using or not using pain medication during your labor.

Every experience is different and you need to do what you need to do to bring that little person into the world. There is no right or wrong, as long as we are doing the best we can for our children.

These are just a few ways that we can all try to be a little kinder to each other. As mom’s we are constantly under pressure. From the media, saying we have to bounce back, to our friends and family wondering when we are going to get it back together. We are incredibly hard on ourselves and we should be trying to help each other instead of trying to find ways to make someone feel bad for the job they are doing.

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