Leaving home is a big deal for most ´children´ - and for their parents as well. Although independence is a natural progression, the young person can find that it´s not as easy or as much fun as they thought. Seeing their children leave home can be a sad experience for parents, So, whether you´re leaving or staying behind, here are some tips on how to cope with leaving home.
1. Solve Your Own Problems
So you´re legally an adult now, and you´ve left home. How exciting it is, and how much you´ve been looking forward to being independent. Then you find out that actually it´s quite scary. Don´t be tempted to run back to Mom and Dad when things get tough – part of being an adult is learning how to sort out your own problems.
2. Stick It out
For many people, going to college is not what they expected at first, and they feel like everyone else is having a great time while they´re not making any friends. If you find leaving home hard going, stick with it. Talk to other people and you´ll find that you´re not alone. Things will get easier, and you´ll adjust to the changes.
3. Make Friends
When you´re wondering how to cope with leaving home, you can feel very lonely. If leaving home has involved moving away from your local area, the best thing to do is to establish a local support network in your new place. Your new friends can support you and help you cope with your new life. And soon you´ll be so busy having fun that you won´t have time to worry about coping!
You´re a adult now, and being an adult means learning to look after yourself. It´s all part of growing up and maturing. Leaving home is a natural stage in life. Everybody does it, so unless you want to be living in Mom´s basement when you´re 35, see leaving home as a necessary part of your life.
5. Positive Side
If, on the other hand, you´re a parent, try to see the positive side of your children leaving home. You´ve done your job and it´s time to let them go. If you´ve done your job well, you´ll have taught them how to be independent. It might be sad, but there are lots of advantages as well!
When your kids have flown the nest, it can be all too tempting to check up on them every five minutes. Resist the temptation, and don´t email or text them too frequently. Chances are they´re having a great time, and if they´re not, too much contact may make them homesick. Instead, let them know they can get in touch if they need you, and then leave them to it.
7. Have Your Own Life
The best part of your children leaving home is that you now get the chance to have your own life! It no longer revolves around their needs and routine; you can go on vacation when you want, and have as many hobbies as you´ve time for. Make the most of it, and take the opportunity to do things that you´ve wanted to do for a long time.
Some parents never accept that their kids have grown up, even long after they´ve actually left home. This doesn´t do either party any good. It´s important to accept that they´re now independent young adults, and that you´ve moved on to a different stage in your own life.
Some parents look at their adorable toddlers and dread their children leaving home. Others can´t wait until they have their lives to themselves – especially when their children are going through the teenage years! Did you wonder how to cope with leaving home, and can you offer any tips from your own experience to parents or offspring?
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