Becoming a stay at home mom has brought me many happy moments that I will treasure all of my life. But there are some things about being a stay at home mom that are surprising to a mom just making this shift in her life. I would always rather know what I am going into right up front so I hope to shed some light on things for you. Becoming a stay at home mom can be a wonderful thing but it is best to be prepared for surprising changes.
1. It Can Get a Little Lonely
One thing that surprised me about becoming a stay at home mom was that it can get a little lonely. You might not think that it would because after all, you are surrounded by little human beings every waking minute. But they may not be talking yet or even if they are, they may not offer you the kind of companionship that you need. To combat this, don’t stop getting together with your friends every now and then. If that isn’t possible, at least get out and mingle with adults from time to time.
2. Some People Judge You
Some people will judge you for being a stay at home mom. Oh, they may never say it but they really won’t have to. You will be able to pick it up from their tone and actions when you bring up the subject. This was very hurtful and confusing to me when I became a stay at home mom. Didn’t everyone think that being a stay at home mom was an important position? Sadly, no.
3. You Become Very Close to Your Children
This was one of the sweetest things about becoming a stay at home mom for me. I have become so attached to my children and they are close to me. I love to talk to them and they are just my favorite people to be with, along with my husband. I have so much fun with them. They share things with me that give me a precious window into their world.
4. You Have More Free Mental Space
Although you may be busier than you have ever been in your life, you will still probably find that you have more free mental space than you have had in a long time. You aren’t worrying over work situations and stressful job related issues anymore. That is not to say that you will not have worries or stress; you will of course. But that free mental space that is no longer overloaded is very, very nice. It can actually get quite addictive.
5. Your Focus Shifts
It is still amazing to me how my focus shifted when I became a stay at home mom. It stopped being on the workplace and started being on what was going on under my roof. I focused on my family, of course, but other things, too. I began to focus on things like decorating my home and trying new recipes, but you could shift your focus to many other worthwhile things such as learning a new skill or a different language.
6. Finances Are Sometimes Tighter
You know, I will just be honest. One income instead of two does result in tighter finances. But there are a lot of things you can do to help offset the difference. Being frugal can actually be a skill you enjoy after some time. For me, getting the best deal on anything is almost like a game.
7. You Will Never Regret It
I have never regretted the time I had as a stay at home mom. I have treasured each and every minute. I have been both a working mom and a stay at home mom and I know that my love for my children was equal at both times. I do not, in any way, believe that being a stay at home mom makes you a better mother. But it was the right choice for me and I have loved every day of it. I would be willing to say that you will, too.
Being a stay at home mom has many adjustments for you to make, both positive and negative. What are your experiences with being a stay at home mom? What was the biggest surprise to you?