The facts of life you should teach your children are statements we tend to take for granted because we hear them almost every single day. Growing up, I learned from my parents that there are things that should be repeated again and again for the message to get across the intended receiver. I later learned that it’s called “redundancy” and it could be annoying but nevertheless, helpful. From my parents, I learned the following facts of life you should teach your children:
1. There Are No Short Cuts
It’s tempting to find one or attempt to try one but in life, there are no short cuts. Everything is about hard work and perseverance unless you happen to be privileged and born with a silver spoon in your mouth. Of all the facts of life you should teach your children (or future children), I think this is the one that is generally applicable to work, school, and even relationships.
2. You Will Fail at Something
Somewhere along the road, you will fail at something – an exam, a romantic relationship, a passion you want to pursue. But remember you only fail at something (or some things). NOT at everything. Failure is part of life and should not stop you from moving on. It should push you to do more and be a better version of yourself.
3. Have Fun!
Because as they say “you only live once”. This line, however, has one important caveat: “Think before you act.” Be responsibly happy, as my Mom would say. This is another way of saying: “Don’t do something extremely stupid that you will regret the following day.”
4. Humility is the Best Policy
Well, honesty is a great policy too but if you’re humble, honesty follows. There are too many arrogant people in this world so instead of sitting down and talking about issues, they end up destroying each other using bombs and guns. Humility is a great wardrobe. It makes you feel beautiful and confident even when you don’t verbally say it.
5. Crying is Okay
Crying takes on different meanings and implications as we grow older. But one thing that holds true across time and eternity is my belief that crying is not a sign of weakness; it is a symbol of strength. Crying is an acknowledgment of fear and by accepting that you are afraid is a first step towards taking courage to face your fears.
6. Sharing is Loving
My twins, Nick and Toni, are not in the sharing mood yet. They just grab each other’s toys, cookies, and milk bottles. But I always tell them to share. I know they still don’t understand what I am saying but I believe that I should introduce the word “share” to them this early so they will grow up as people who also think about the welfare of others.
7. Books Are Friends!
I am ultimately biased about this fact because I am a big bookworm. I learned so much from books that helped shape the person that I am now. I had very few picture books when I was growing up because my parents couldn't afford to buy a lot but my Mom would always make it a point to buy all the books required for school and she encouraged me and my three siblings to read them all, because they are the kind of friends that “won’t leave you even when you leave them.”
What other facts about life have you learned from your parents?