Our kids never want to hear the word chores and clean up, they love to play with their toys and would rather eat their vegetables than help out around the house.
However, at a certain age we need to start teaching them about responsibility.
Today guest blogger Jane is here to help us learn how we can show our kids responsibility in a way they might enjoy it with 7 Ways to Motivate Kids to Do their Chores...
Kids and Chores: How to Motivate Them...
I’ve learned over the years that when it comes to teaching kids responsibility, what works for one child may not work for another.
Take my kids, for example.
My son is naturally very focused and prefers a neat, clean bedroom.
Messes and chaos make him feel anxious.
My daughter, on the other hand, is a natural-born flower child.
As a young child, she collected everything from seashells and rocks to buttons and sequins.
She was happiest when her room was a flurry of creativity -i.e., a mess!
I remember walking into her room at the height of her obsession with the movie, “The Wizard of Oz.” Her room was even messier than normal.
She had pulled everything off the shelves and out of the closet.
When I asked her what she was doing, she explained very dramatically, “We’re in Kansas, Mom.
There’s been a tornado.”
Needless to say, I wouldn’t have been very successful parenting these two dramatically different children with the same techniques.
My son rarely needs reminders to clean his room.
He’s fanatical about his clothing and has done his own ironing since he was twelve.
My goal with him is to help him keep things in perspective.
Cleanliness may be next to godliness, but not if you’re so compulsive that you drive your family crazy.
My daughter, on the other hand, needed a bit more encouragement.
If I nagged her too much, she tended to balk.
Stickers and rewards seemed to motivate her temporarily, and then her interest waned.
My goal was to retrain her naturally free-spirited personality enough that she could function successfully in life.
Below are a seven strategies we used to teach responsibility:
1. Allow Natural Consequences...
As Robert Brault said, “It is one thing to show your children the way, and another thing to then step out of it.” If my daughter didn’t put away her laundry, she had no clothes to wear.
If she failed to set her alarm clock, she missed breakfast.